Before we go any further, let's just agree that our African men know better. That being said, last month, I wrote a post on this blog, titled, "20 Things Women Are Not Doing in 2020," and while it was so much fun to write, I was once again surprised by how many women related to it. A woman sent me an email to say how she related to so many of these points, but the one that pained her most was number 7, quoted below:
Accepting less because our African men don’t know better: We now know that this is a lie from the pit of hell, and we rebuke it accordingly. We see you, African men. We see you when you buy flowers for your Oyibo girlfriends. We see you when you take them on vacation to exotic islands. And we see you when you give them your credit cards to go shopping. Henceforth, we are no longer accepting your stuffed animals from Walmart. And we are no longer accepting your zero point five ounce fragrance from Burlington. You know better, so you should do better. We are women too. We were not gotten from firewood.
So, this week's episode is to remind (or inform) us that our African men know better. But in order for us to get better out of them, we have to first demand better. Also, to give you some context as to why I feel the way I feel, you can read my marriage and divorce story here.